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Rich Mullins’ Pursuit of Happiness

In 1992, Rich Mullins explained his secret formula for finding happiness

1. Forget about finding happiness. Happiness is not worthy of your search.

2. Bake a cake—a really rich cake, preferably from scratch (and especially if you are an inexperienced baker or a tested, tried & notoriously awful cook). The value is in the baking more than in the cake.

3. Call up some enemy of yours and invite that enemy to eat the cake with you. If the cake is good you may lose an enemy and gain a friend. If the cake is bad, at least vengeance is sweet.

4. If you can’t think of a single enemy, then call up a friend. Invite your friend over to eat the cake with you. If the cake is good the favor may be returned. If the cake is awful your friend may go buy one from a bakery for you. If you are without any enemies or friends, take your cake to an old folks’ home. Eat it with them! If the cake is good you will no longer be without friends. If the cake is terrible you will no longer be without enemies.

5. Memorize Isaiah 40 or the first Psalm or Psalm 91. Read the closing chapters of the Book of Job. Meditate on the Beatitudes (Matthew 5). Write out one of the Prison Epistles (Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians) and send them to some other unhappy person. All of this may not make you happy but it will tell you how to be holy. Once you tie that knot you may find yourself in a position to be made happy.

6. Work hard. Clean something. Find new and more space-efficient ways of folding your clothes. Rake someone else’s yard for them. If you are unhappy maybe you can help someone else be less so.

7. Go back to the 3rd chapter of Lamentations and then repeat after me:

“It is good to wait quietly
for the salvation of the Lord.
It is good for a man to bear
the yoke while he is young.
Let him sit alone in silence
for the Lord has laid it on him.”

8. Reread the 23rd Psalm and remember that if the Lord is your shepherd, then you are in a lush pasture. You are by a still stream. If it seems otherwise to you, it may be because you would rather be happy than be God’s. If this is so, then you have more reason to be happy than anyone. God has chosen you—ungrateful, decadent you—and being His is a joy and a happiness that goes beyond anything else you may seek, and in your folly settle for. God will (in His mercy) make you discontent with anything less than Him. So, we have only one step left…

9. Rejoice!

Announcing My New Devotional Book

I published a 40-day devotional guide called Winning Ways: Inspiration for Uncommon Living. You can order a physical copy for $6.99 by clicking here, or a Kindle copy for $3.49 by clicking here.

According to the Bible, a lot can take place in forty days. Noah’s entire world was changed by forty days of rain. Moses spent forty days on Mount Sinai and came back with the Ten Commandments. Israel’s spies spent forty days in the Promised Land. A shepherd boy named David had enough after forty days of Goliath’s taunts. God sustained his prophet Elijah for forty days on a single meal. The pagan city of Nineveh repented when given forty days to do so. Jesus himself was prepared for his life’s work after forty days in the wilderness. And the disciples were prepared for their life’s work after spending forty days with Jesus after his resurrection.

What could happen to your life in just forty days?

Let’s find out! In these pages you’ll find inspiration for uncommon living. Pick a day to start, and let this book guide you into deeper fellowship with God.

Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert

Here’s Russell Moore’s interview with Rosaria Butterfield, who was a tenured professor of Syracuse University and in a lesbian relationship before coming to faith and new life in Christ. Fascinating story of grace:

Her book, Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert can be purchased here.

Who God Says You Are in Christ


When it comes to the names we’re given, I’m glad God puts more thought into it than some parents.

John Tierney once ran a contest for bad baby names. He got more than 1,000 entries of real names. There was Charman Toilette, Chastity Beltz, Wrigley Fields, Justin Credible, Candy Stohr, and Tiny Bimbo. I suppose Brook Traut had good reason to name his daughter Rainbow, but the dad who named his daughter Emma Royd should be shot.

The winner of the contest? Well, how to put this? Iona is a pretty name, but the mother really didn’t think about how it would sound when paired with the family name—Knipl. Before taking her husband’s name, she said that every time she introduced herself the typical reply was, “I own two.”

I’m reminded of a scene from the 70s sitcom, WKRP in Cincinnati (yes, I really am that old). Les Nessman was a slight, balding, bespectacled newsman for the radio station. When he met a young, handsome repairman, the exchange went like this:

Nessman: Steel, is it?

Hawthorne: Yeah, Steel Hawthorn.

Nessman: That’s a nice name.

Hawthorne: Thanks. I like to think that a person’s name says a lot about the type of person he is. What was your name again?

Nessman: [pauses] Les.

Parents may give their kids a name they have to live down, but God gives us titles to live up to! This wonderful truth is on my mind as I’ve begun a study through the life of Gideon. When the curtain rises on the tragicomedy of Gideon’s life, we see him threshing wheat in a winepress, hiding from Midianite marauders who had had their way with Israel for years. And yet when the angel of the Lord appeared before him, the angel said, “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.”

He cowered in a winepress, yet he was a mighty warrior in God’s eyes. And he eventually rose to the man God knew he could be.

Have you ever thought about the ways God has named you in Christ? For a start, how about…

…Overcomer (1 John 5:4)

…Holy (Colossians 1:22)

…Free (John 8:36)

Do we live up to these titles? Not yet, not always. But, like Gideon, he calls you up to and in to the character he knows you can become.

(The sermons in this series will be posted online at

Is Marriage a Consumer Product or a Covenant Partnership?


A college-aged friend believes that marriage shouldn’t take place until you’ve lived with a woman for a while. You’ve got to “try it on for size,” he said of the potential relationship, so you can see if it’s going to suit you long-term.

He was raised in our children’s and youth programs, but as he launches into adulthood he prefers the dominant operating system of his nonbelieving peers. Is there a way to help him critique this relationship feature of the OS instead of blindly adopting it?

In dealing with issues like this, my approach is always in two parts: Help people see the dominant OS for what it is, and give them a good explanation for the biblical alternative. The first part is negative work and the second is positive work, but both are essential. In other words, the first thing I have to do is highlight the flaws and weaknesses of choosing the OS of the surrounding world. Then I have to show why the biblical model makes sense.

On this particular issue of cohabitation, my young friend needs to see that the worldview he’s adopting looks on marriage as a consumer product, while his Lord regards it as a covenant partnership.

Notice how my friend put it: He wants to evaluate a live-in relationship—he wants to “try it on for size.” He needs to see how this will turn him into a mere consumer in his future romantic relationships. Since both he and his companion will be poised to return the product if the results are unsatisfactory, the relationship will always have an instability to it.

In their wonderful book, The Meaning of Marriage, Tim and Kathy Keller write:

When dating or living together, you have to prove your value daily by impressing and enticing. You have to show that the chemistry is there and the relationship is fun and fulfilling or it will be over. We are still basically in a consumer relationship, and that means constant promotion and marketing. 

What’s the biblical alternative to seeing marriage as a consumer product? To see it as a covenant partnership. We choose this way of relating to our romantic companion because it’s the way God chose to relate to us.

One of the clearest verses to present this is Ezekiel 16:8 (NLT). Here God is comparing his relationship to Israel like the relationship of a husband to a wife: “’I wrapped my cloak around you…and declared my marriage vows. I made a covenant with you,’ says the Sovereign Lord, ‘and you became mine.’”

Really, the whole story of the Bible is a story of God’s faithfulness to his marriage vows, so to speak. Over and over again, the Bible says that he stands and stays with his people because he is a God who keeps his promises:

  • Leviticus 26:44-45 (NLT),“I will not cancel my covenant with them by wiping them out. I, the Lord, am their God. I will remember my ancient covenant with their ancestors, whom I brought out of Egypt while all the nations watched. I, the Lord, am their God.”
  • Deuteronomy 4:31 (NIV), “For the Lord your God is a merciful God; he will not abandon or destroy you or forget the covenant with your forefathers, which he confirmed to them by oath.”
  • 2 Kings 13:23 (NIV), “But the Lord was gracious to them and had compassion and showed concern for them because of his covenant with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.”
  • Isaiah 54:10 (NIV), “’Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,’ says the Lord, who has compassion on you.”

Notice in all of those verses that God points back to his vows, his covenant, and says, “I’m sticking with my people because I’ve made a promise. The integrity of my word is on the line.”

The fact that God made a covenant with his people is the Number One reason why you should make a covenant with your romantic companion. Huge numbers of couples, even those who know Christ, have decided to live together, maybe even have children together, without a wedding ceremony. But if we want to reflect the heart of God to the person we love, one thing we need to recognize is that God was willing to announce his love for us publicly. He was willing to declare his commitment to us before the world. And when things get tough in his relationship with us, over and over again in the Bible we see him saying, “I made a promise to my people, a public promise, a covenant, and I’m sticking with it.”

So, we get married, and we stay married, not because of parental expectations or social custom. We get married and stay married because God has set the example for us and we want to follow God.

About Tom

ANCHOR COURSE LOGO Tom Goodman is a graduate of Baylor University and Southwestern Seminary in Fort Worth, and he holds a doctorate from New Orleans Seminary. He has served as pastor in Louisiana, north Texas, and overseas in Grand Cayman before becoming the pastor of Hillcrest Church in Austin, Texas. Diane and Tom have been married since their days at Baylor University, and they have two sons, Michael and Stephen. Tom enjoys scuba diving, watching the latest Netflix DVD with Diane, and chasing mis-hit golf balls.